Vanity is my favorite sin.

What if
all women were bigger and stronger than you
and thought they were smarter

What if
women were the ones who started wars

What if
too many of your friends had been raped by women wielding giant dildos
and no K-Y Jelly

What if
the state trooper
who pulled you over on the New Jersey Turnpike
was a woman
and carried a gun

What if
the ability to menstruate
was the prerequisite for most high-paying jobs

What if
your attractiveness to women depended
on the size of your penis

What if
every time women saw you
they’d hoot and make jerking motions with their hands

What if
women were always making jokes
about how ugly penises are
and how bad sperm tastes

What if
you had to explain what’s wrong with your car
to big sweaty women with greasy hands
who stared at your crotch
in a garage where you are surrounded
by posters of naked men with hard-ons

What if
men’s magazines featured cover photos
of 14-year-old boys
with socks
tucked into the front of their jeans
and articles like:
“How to tell if your wife is unfaithful”
“What your doctor won’t tell you about your prostate”
“The truth about impotence”

What if
the doctor who examined your prostate
was a woman
and called you “Honey”

What if
you had to inhale your boss’s stale cigar breath
as she insisted that sleeping with her
was part of the job

What if
you couldn’t get away because
the company dress code required
you wear shoes
designed to keep you from running

And what if
after all that
women still wanted you
to love them.


For the Men Who Still Don’t Get It, written 20 years ago by Carol Diehl. 

She wrote a post about the history of this poem that is worth reading.

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canndice: Your blog is like some kind of library, your articles taught me a lot, some of them changed my viewpoint. The first thing I do is entering your blog when I have free time, I want to thank you for sharing them with us, please don't stop writing!

Wow, it’s an honor to hear that. I just want to write about things that can make people think, so it’s amazing to know that I can sometimes hit the mark. If you (all of you followers, yes even the ones who are only here for fashion pictures) ever have something you think I could write about that would interest you, feel free to send me a message!

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[excuse me for terrible photo quality] but can we please appreciate the beautiful iridescence on this Issey Miyake piece that has made a home in my heart

[excuse me for terrible photo quality] but can we please appreciate the beautiful iridescence on this Issey Miyake piece that has made a home in my heart

Anonymous: Your post really amazed me. Thank you for raising awareness on a topic that is so often pushed aside

Thank you so much for this message, because that’s honestly the greatest thing I could achieve with any of my posts. 

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Anonymous: You should post other POC, too. Because aside from Asian Models - Black, Native American, and models that are Hispanic / Latin@ are barely on fashion blogs as well. I've noticed that most of the popular fashion blogs post mostly white models/designers, so it'd be nice to see one breaking that mold and add more POC in the mix that aren't just from one sort of background.

I think this depends on people’s dashboards - personally for me, I follow as many blogs that post POC as possible, and my dash is dominated by Lupita Nyong’O and Naomi Campbell. But it’s definitely true that the fashion tag is as whitewashed as a Dior by Raf show, and most fashion editors are white so I don’t wonder why. It’s Sasha Luss and Kate Moss posts that draw the most notes, and even when I make my own posts I have to actively remind myself not to pander to an audience that has normalized the ideal of white beauty - and sometimes I fail in not doing so. 

The reason why I’m emphasizing Asian racism through absence is probably because of my own experience. When we look at media representation outside of the fashion world, in the realm of movies and television that occupies most people’s minds, black people can be strong, hispanic/latino people can be sexy but at best, Asians can be…good at kung fu? In general, we are there for comedic effect, to be laughed at. As an Asian female, I honestly have no mainstream role models to look up to that I can identify with and that terrifies me. Even with Liu Wen, Xiao Wen Ju or Ji Hye Park, the vacuum of Asians who speak up and are heard pulls at all of us, and this imbalance is something that’s been ignored in a way it hasn’t with other POC, at least on tumblr. 

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Anonymous: Just make your stand and don't be indimitated by hostile retorts if you receive any. These people are obviously coming from an angry, irrational place and the anger is further escalated by their own ignorance. I bet they get their education on feminism from mass media or 4chan or some other fedora-supported website. That's such an embarrassing post to make and on facebook of all places. I don't know if you have to do much at all, they're embarrassing themselves already.

My response:

Yes, LET’S talk about gender equality! 

  1. Women are braver if they hit men: I don’t want to call this stupid, but anyone who’s taken even an introductory bio class knows there’s an obvious physical difference in men and women - hell, that’s WHY we need to fight for gender equality. The history of incredibly gendered domestic violence is a testament to that: according to the US CDC (and that’s US, we’re not even talking Sub-Saharan Africa) 30% of females are killed in incidences of domestic violence compared to…5% of males. 
  2. It works both ways for this one - if a woman randomly kissed a man it would be pretty strange too. It’s just that men happen to do it a lot more: going from sexual harassment in the workplace stats, 79% of victims are female…21% are male.
  3. Women staring at men’s crotches? Please. Sexual objectification in the media (do I even need stats for this? You’d need to be fairly uneducated not to know this exists on a rampant scale) means men get to stare at women’s breasts way more, it’s hard to believe it wouldn’t be considered offensive when every time we open a magazine there will undoubtedly be some incarnation of a female’s breasts staring back at us.
  4. It’s the 21st century, we all split the bill. No one is cheap. Don’t confuse gallantry with equality.
  5. Men are only perverted going into a female bathroom if they stay there…
  6. Women doing work: “Help me!” - That’s the most patronising thing I’ve ever seen. Women barely get paid to do work that men do so let’s not even go here. 
  7. Oh my god. How could someone agree with this shit? US Justice Dept stats: 9 in 10 rape victims are female. And oh, you guys are 631 times more likely to become NFL players than to be falsely accused of rape. 

“Gender Equality” 

(I honestly feel ashamed of not putting in any sources but I know that not only would they not show up well on facebook but no one would actually care about them because I wouldn’t think any of those boys could hold a well reasoned argument and would know that stats need sources…) 

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Anonymous: Sexism hurts everyone and all genders so men also benefit from intersectional feminism. Feminism isn't to blame for men's narrowminded gender expectations, the culprit is traditional gender roles which is the very thing feminism critisizes. Blaming that on feminism is the most irrational conclusion you can come up with. The post is so childish and petty I'd find it hard to believe that anyone older than 15 would make content like that.

I am in full agreement with you, and it’s even sadder to know that people my age - from the exact same educational background as me, too, so there’s really no excuse - are peddling this kind of misinformation. What does pointing out arbitrary, mostly incorrect so-called “gender double standards” do except substantiate an already existing male privledge? Especially coming from a country that is still developing where the gender double standards are serious - the ability to get a job for a woman in Thailand, mostly an agricultural society, is exponenitally more difficult than it is for a man - I fail to see the relevance of inapplicable gender double standards over splitting the bill

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Anonymous: did you take art igcse? if so , what grade/percentage did you get?

I did! I got A*, and you can message me off anon for the percentage. 

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